You might think that getting a goth boyfriend in crosses too many of the invisible but very real social boundaries that govern your school. Whether you like a guy who happens to be a goth or you simply want a goth boyfriend, there are a few steps to follow to start a romance with a goth.

Step1
Get some background in goth culture by starting off with some of the music that’s considered foundational to the goth subculture. Listen to Bauhaus, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Adam and the Ants, The Cure and some British post-punk rock. Also start to familiarize yourself with goth literature such as Anne Rice, Edgar Allen Poe and even the tale of the Headless Horseman.

Step2
Find out where the goth crowd at your high school hangs out and who’s part of the crowd. If you have goth kids in any of your classes start talking to them and don’t be intimidated by the goth dress and makeup since this is just a part of goth culture.

Step3
Get yourself invited to a goth hangout or head to a local goth shows. Add a little touch of goth style without doing an overnight transformation by putting on some eyeliner, black lipstick, black nail polish or simply wearing a T-shirt of one of the better known and well respected goth bands so you stand out to a potential boyfriend.

Step4
Turn to goth sites and social networks like Goth Passions and Goth Scene if you find you need a little help meeting high school goths or getting a better understanding of goth culture.

Step5
Pick up on some goth slang to add a little extra flare of the gothic so your potential boyfriend comes to you. Focus on the different, obscure goth types such as “perky goth,” or a goth who pretends to be happy for the sake of being ironic, a “plasti-goth,” or goth poser, and a Mansonite, or devotee of goth-pop king Marilyn Manson.